5 dangerous mistakes in the movie “50 shades of grey”. Why this is not BDSM

5 dangerous mistakes in the movie “50 shades of grey”. Why this is not BDSM

The romance of the limitless financial success, the injured child, the desire to control the beloved – Hello, Mr. grey (though not Dorian, and Christian). And congratulations on the rebranding, Mr. Edward Cullen. The film “50 shades of grey” has contributed to the popularization of the BDSM topic (or “Theme”), while significantly turning and distorting the basic principles of direction.

“Shades” was not the first, to them was a “Story”, “Secretary”, is much more subtle psychologically, and many other movies. But “Shades”, it has been possible to show in cinemas, despite the blatant mix of Topics and . After the film’s release was marked by the growth of sales of case accessories. “50 shades of grey” has begun to sound as a favorite book. Why the proposed relationship is not relevant to the Topic and what is dangerous, really is to understand.

The subject deals with principles of safety, rationality, voluntariness (MDD), with full awareness. Because domination involves taking responsibility for the condition of the other (physical and psychological), care about him.

5 dangerous mistakes

1. Farewell, informing

Anastasia never knows how it will end, she wants a romantic relationship and are ready for any form of them to keep a boyfriend in my life. In fact, she refuses to let their opinions and desires out of fear of losing a man. Informing replaces the phrase “trust me”. Even though the pair level “trust” means a good knowledge of each other, reactions and preferences – i.e., essentially the information is the whole experience of a previous relationship in the BDSM couple. In “Shades” instead of informing blind faith to the first comer.

2. Goodbye, good will

In the film there is a contract describing the relationship the dominance-submission, which fully sets out the boundaries of permissible and nutrition and contraception Anastacia. But the physical relationship starts before signing the contract. In response to doubts about the willingness to sign a document of this kind and attempt to end the relationship – follow the arrangements and the invasion of the living space. Grey generally constantly violates personal boundaries heroine: he finds himself in her apartment, he sells her car without telling her, tries to limit her travel. It seems that Anastasia personal has no boundaries, they’re not built, permeable. Instead of voluntariness – get coercion and persuasion, a threat to end a relationship: “Other relationships I do not accept”.

3. Goodbye rationality

Our heroine gets drunk in a bar, allow yourself to take the unfamiliar man to his home, with none of her friends not looking for it. The story of the 15 women who lived in the apartment warming up to her, its not scary. She is in love and ready to become number 16 in the collection. Instead of a healthy instinct of self-preservation – is-destructive tendencies. Sex in life of Anastasia is not a product of its decision or informed prudent choices, rather, it just happens with her.

4. Goodbye, security

You will be missed especially. Thematic relationship involves caring about the partner. This pair uses a “traffic light” (green – Yes; yellow – caution; red – stop) to make it easier to track the status of the partner. In practices where the partner can not name the dominant color is closely monitoring the emotions of a partner, creating for him a “zone of comfort and pleasure” (if the discussion of boundaries was not specified otherwise). The fear and discomfort mean immediate stop. There are techniques, which are trained specifically to the security requirement are adhered to, because some of the impacts, the negative effects can be delayed. Instead of attention paid to the partner – the desire to bring gray planned manipulation to the end (spanking), even though the heroine is experiencing only pain and fear. The direction of thought, “I will bind her/him and will do whatever I want” – it’s not about Theme, but about violence, unlawful conduct.

5. Goodbye, thematic series

There are two behavioral circle, one characteristic of BDSM, the other for destructive relations.

  • Subject: communication of consent – session/game – caring about the partner after the session – feedback.
  • Violence: planning – preparation – violence – guilt – apology – “honeymoon” (the age of love and care).

The film fits perfectly into the cycle of violence, punctuated by flying, piano, luxury gifts. Thematic series as such in the film missing.

All experiments in sexual practices are permissible with the mutual consent of the adult partners. Is BDSM psychologically purging, a way to add thrills to the gray weekdays, to play children’s emotions, in each case, the reasons for referring to this area will be individual. For someone Subject becomes an unusual experience for someone to form a relationship. Whatever your experiments, let them be first and foremost safe.

Thanks topics, assisting in the preparation of the article for the Frank answers to questions and interest in the study.

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