“Hello! Improving the heroines of the movies and games. Always compare yourself with them and lose much in their eyes, although look very good. What do I do?”
Catherine, 37 years
If you’re jealous your man even to the characters of movies or games, the reason this one – your insecurities, says psychologist Olga Romaniv. In today’s world every person feels the lack of confidence. This is due to the fact that in any field, both career and personal life, there is always a place of competition. In addition, the media, advertising, film and other products literally pushing us with images of perfect people, beautiful and successful. So you always want to match, but, unfortunately, manage to do this. In some cases, this leads to the fact that a person is experiencing an inferiority complex, and it can become a serious problem hindering the development of the individual. Are there ways of dealing with such systems? Today, this will help us to understand Olga.
The birth of the complex
Any complex originates in childhood and youth. Usually at this age, he instilled older. Of course, they can appear as a consequence of interaction with peers at school or kindergarten. Children’s psyche is very sensitive to disapproving and offensive statements of both adults and peers. Some of these judgments can be deposited in the subconscious of almost all his life. The worst is when a child shares it with their parents and they do not have the ability to spend with the child preventive conversation.
If you at some point realize that you have a complex of any kind that disrupt your life, then, first of all, you need to understand that by themselves they will not disappear. On the contrary, over the years, this problem will only get worse. Inferiority complex is a deep psychological problem that requires work.
Any complexes and fears in psychology often are treated by the method of overcoming or, simply put, “like cures”. The cause of your complexes and situations where you feel fear and uncertainty, in any case it is not necessary to run. For example, if you have a complex concerning your appearance, avoid contact with people, refuse of dates, to give up on myself and not to care for themselves is a road to nowhere, thus you are depriving yourself of the chance to get rid of this problem. You have to take yourself in hand, often look in the mirror, to work on the weaknesses that cause you concern, but it does not avoid communicating with people, especially with the opposite sex. Roughly speaking, the situations that cause you stress in connection with your complexes are your way to get rid of them.
The following method of dealing with complexes, I want to describe this affirmation. An affirmation is a mental setting, a kind of “programming” of the psyche at a certain result. It is important to note that this method requires time, stability and patience. One day, a week or even a month to achieve positive results will be impossible. However, the method of affirmations can this problem be eradicated once and for all. Working with affirmations is best done in the morning or evening. Pick a time when you are most active: if you are a night owl, choose the evening closer to bedtime if you are a morning person, try to work in the morning.
Working with affirmations is pretty simple. Sit in front of a mirror (preferably in the room but you’re not), look yourself straight in the eye and mentally or aloud play the following point: “I am a strong and confident person and I’m not afraid of the causes of their complexes (say specific)”. This method in psychology a very effective, short phrase that expresses the desired setting with time has on the psyche of the desired effect.
The most important thing that you must learn everyone who is faced with the problem of inferiority complex is to accept yourself with its pluses and minuses. Remember that you have everything in order to become better. Do not pay attention to other people and not compare yourself with others. You personality, and your flaws, and virtues shape your unique personality.